Life-Long Friends

Back when the world was a smaller place, it was common to hear of friends who met the first day of Kindergarten that are still best of friends 25 or 30 years later. These are truly wonderful friendships that should be celebrated. But as the world got bigger, families became less sedentary. Families often move multiple times, sometimes from coast to coast. It’s important that parents remember that making friends is a learned skill that develops over time. It’s also a skill that your child will have to use frequently in today’s mobile society. So, if your child has difficulty making friends, here are some skills and steps to take to get them started off on the right foot.

Skills

• Be a Good Role Model – Children are prone to emulating their Parents. So tell your children about the positive experiences you’ve had making friends.
• Common Interests – children need to recognize others with shared interests. These are kids that play the same sports, like the same activities, read the same books, etc. This gives your child a reason to introduce themselves and a common point of discussion on which to base a friendship.
• Listening – everyone wants a friend who will listen to them. It’s also a great way for kids to find the common interests they have with their new fiend.
• Empathy – this goes hand-in-hand with listening. Helping a friend through a tough day can further strengthen the bonds of their new relationship.

Making friends isn’t easy for children. Be patient, understanding and supportive of your child and friendships should develop naturally. Just remember to give your child the opportunity to meet new friends through placing them in new events and activities.