This time of year brings out the best in our children, their schedules are off because of all the fun and exciting activities associated with the holidays. Parents often try to squeeze in a few more errands before nap time and this can lead to the dreaded public tantrum. Anyone who has been a parent or guardian has had to endure the public tantrum. Instead of losing your cool, and your senses, try taking a deep breath, smile at an understanding adult nearby, and then see if one of these tips will work:1. Sometimes it’s ok to give in and choose your battles. Sometimes you need to step in and stop the tantrum, other times if they are not hurting themselves or anyone or anything around them let you toddler express their feelings. Let them get their anger out and then explain the consequences of their tantrum.
2. Bribe. A goal for good behavior can do wonders. Something along the lines of, if you stop fussing until we get to the car, I'll let you watch your favorite video tonight”. The child's favorite things are truly wonderful motivators to use to get the behavior you desire. However be sure to use this tactic sparingly so they don't expect a treat every time they show good behavior.
3. Distract. Distract her/him with something, this a great way to help them to calm down. Put a cartoon video on, listen to music, read a story, watch television, go outside, or watch animals outside your window. This is often not easy to do, but if you find a distraction that works it might be enough to settle the storm.
4. Do not overwhelm a child that really just needs some peace and calm to settle down. Your child mirrors your response to their tantrum. If you respond by yelling at your child this might just increase the tension and raise the level of your child’s tantrum or make it last longer. Try a calming hug and some kind words instead. Your child may just want to know that you understood their feelings or frustration.
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